I loved reading your list! I got rid of my phone in my room a few years ago and use an alarm clock. But I still pick it up too many times throughout the day. 🤦🏻♀️ Thanks for linking to my post! 💛
Thanks for reading Stacy! I’m with you on pickling up too many times (I mean I picked it up just now and found myself in Substack aaack!). I’m trying a new book out, Noise, by Joseph McCormack and I’m enjoying his reframe that it’s not just about big tech and the time we spend and dopamine hits (my primary understanding until reading the book!) but it’s also about fractured attention spans and focus… that’s the part that is resonating with me and what I do physically feel in my mind. I’m looking forward to the application section to see what I can change.
I believe that is true! In the past, when I've done a social media "fast" for an extended period of time (like a month), I assumed I would pick my phone up less. I was disappointed that my screen time didn't go down as much as I anticipated being off social media. So, it makes sense that we have fractured our attention spans and focus, which is why we keep picking up our phones.
Kindness is key, hey?! I'll admit I'm kinder to others than myself, but I am hopeful I can keep growing in that narrative and not always accept it as truth. Thanks for holding space with me for the blahhhs on hair, face, clothes, I don't love it for us that we're feeling this way, but it's so good to know I'm not alone. I like don't even recognize myself in the mirror at times! It's very strange. Thank you for reading my words. I can't wait to come over and visit with more of yours ;)
I’ve done a lot of work with self-compassion after realizing I would never treat a friend the way my inner critic treats me. I always felt like being kind to myself was cheating, but now I focus on self-compassion as a value.
Yeah, I don’t love the body blues for us either 🫤 can definitely relate to not recognizing myself in the mirror! —time for some more self-compassion 😉
Thank you Lindsay for your honesty and openness in sharing. Love that Anne Lamott quote! 2024 was a difficult year for me in terms of my chronic pain. It's been a struggle (still is a struggle) to admit there are things I can no longer do and to ask for help. I sometimes (oftentimes, if I'm being honest) am waiting for my husband and son to swoop in and just do the thing, take care of the errand/chore/task at hand instead of me having to come out and ask for help. Life is hard -- the life outside my family's home, our life, my aging parents -- and I have had to increase the frequency in which I speak with my therapist.
Wendy I’m sorry things have been heavy for you. I find that I always have to voice what I need with my spouse and kids— not because they aren’t thinking of me but because I have created an independent “I’m fine, don’t worry” vibe for myself until I’m actually melting down, I’m not saying this is you too but if that asking for specific help resonated with you perhaps it helps to remind yourself giving them specifics is the kindest plan for all and lessons frustrations for both parties. I’m glad you are seeking more therapy, I had to dive deep in from 2020-2023, and still do regular checks!
Thank you, Lindsay, for your reply. Yes, like you, I have gotten very good (maybe too good) at behaving like I can do it all - which I could for a long time. It's so, so hard to admit that physically isn't the case any more. I appreciate your support and understanding.
I enjoyed reading your 2024 recap! My 2024 began with college visits with my senior and a concert getaway my girl for her sweet 16, and ended with a surprise new baby in 2025! I too have struggled with a consistent workout routine, I'm currently in regular physical therapy to help with pregnancy symptoms. It's feeling really good because I'm feeling stronger than I ever have while pregnant, so hoping to carry this through into postpartum life and beyond.
I love that you are feeling stronger! Definitely check into a postpartum specific program— I’m enjoying the SLAM app (and when you’re reading I can give you a referral link) she’s so smart about moving wisely after birth. I did a pelvic floor healing program after Hunter and have felt so much better than with Ev.
I always enjoy reading these posts and learn so much from them. It's never too late! "Asking for help and being specific about it" - yep. I am constantly trying to get better at that, too!
Thank you Megan! Yes! So many times my family would help more if I would better delegate “how” to them! It’s a kindness to provide that clarity but I’ll admit my default is whine and complain 😅
My comfort shows list is identical to yours 🤣
I loved reading your list! I got rid of my phone in my room a few years ago and use an alarm clock. But I still pick it up too many times throughout the day. 🤦🏻♀️ Thanks for linking to my post! 💛
Thanks for reading Stacy! I’m with you on pickling up too many times (I mean I picked it up just now and found myself in Substack aaack!). I’m trying a new book out, Noise, by Joseph McCormack and I’m enjoying his reframe that it’s not just about big tech and the time we spend and dopamine hits (my primary understanding until reading the book!) but it’s also about fractured attention spans and focus… that’s the part that is resonating with me and what I do physically feel in my mind. I’m looking forward to the application section to see what I can change.
I believe that is true! In the past, when I've done a social media "fast" for an extended period of time (like a month), I assumed I would pick my phone up less. I was disappointed that my screen time didn't go down as much as I anticipated being off social media. So, it makes sense that we have fractured our attention spans and focus, which is why we keep picking up our phones.
Never too late for some good reflection! Loved this:
“I’m working to look at ours through a generous lens and be kinder to all in the process.”
I’m also feeling blah/frumpy about my hair, face, clothes, etc. And woohoo for your book launch, though I can see how imposter syndrome can set in.
Thanks for sharing your year and your words with us!
Kindness is key, hey?! I'll admit I'm kinder to others than myself, but I am hopeful I can keep growing in that narrative and not always accept it as truth. Thanks for holding space with me for the blahhhs on hair, face, clothes, I don't love it for us that we're feeling this way, but it's so good to know I'm not alone. I like don't even recognize myself in the mirror at times! It's very strange. Thank you for reading my words. I can't wait to come over and visit with more of yours ;)
I’ve done a lot of work with self-compassion after realizing I would never treat a friend the way my inner critic treats me. I always felt like being kind to myself was cheating, but now I focus on self-compassion as a value.
Yeah, I don’t love the body blues for us either 🫤 can definitely relate to not recognizing myself in the mirror! —time for some more self-compassion 😉
Thank you Lindsay for your honesty and openness in sharing. Love that Anne Lamott quote! 2024 was a difficult year for me in terms of my chronic pain. It's been a struggle (still is a struggle) to admit there are things I can no longer do and to ask for help. I sometimes (oftentimes, if I'm being honest) am waiting for my husband and son to swoop in and just do the thing, take care of the errand/chore/task at hand instead of me having to come out and ask for help. Life is hard -- the life outside my family's home, our life, my aging parents -- and I have had to increase the frequency in which I speak with my therapist.
Wendy I’m sorry things have been heavy for you. I find that I always have to voice what I need with my spouse and kids— not because they aren’t thinking of me but because I have created an independent “I’m fine, don’t worry” vibe for myself until I’m actually melting down, I’m not saying this is you too but if that asking for specific help resonated with you perhaps it helps to remind yourself giving them specifics is the kindest plan for all and lessons frustrations for both parties. I’m glad you are seeking more therapy, I had to dive deep in from 2020-2023, and still do regular checks!
Thank you, Lindsay, for your reply. Yes, like you, I have gotten very good (maybe too good) at behaving like I can do it all - which I could for a long time. It's so, so hard to admit that physically isn't the case any more. I appreciate your support and understanding.
I enjoyed reading your 2024 recap! My 2024 began with college visits with my senior and a concert getaway my girl for her sweet 16, and ended with a surprise new baby in 2025! I too have struggled with a consistent workout routine, I'm currently in regular physical therapy to help with pregnancy symptoms. It's feeling really good because I'm feeling stronger than I ever have while pregnant, so hoping to carry this through into postpartum life and beyond.
I love that you are feeling stronger! Definitely check into a postpartum specific program— I’m enjoying the SLAM app (and when you’re reading I can give you a referral link) she’s so smart about moving wisely after birth. I did a pelvic floor healing program after Hunter and have felt so much better than with Ev.
I always enjoy reading these posts and learn so much from them. It's never too late! "Asking for help and being specific about it" - yep. I am constantly trying to get better at that, too!
Thank you Megan! Yes! So many times my family would help more if I would better delegate “how” to them! It’s a kindness to provide that clarity but I’ll admit my default is whine and complain 😅
Sameeee 🙃🙃🙃